To sleep or not to sleep: that is the question.

I was talking to a friend in the school playground.  I had seen on social media that she was starting a new job, and couldn’t believe that it had been so long since we’d had a proper conversation, I hadn’t been aware that she was leaving her old one.  We discussed meeting up, and I said I wished there were more hours in the day to get everything done.  I was intrigued by her response: “I wish I could press the pause button”.

Pressing the pause button

In the two minutes we had before I had to scuttle round to a different part of school to collect my kids, When would you press the pause button? Lady in a sari lying down in a field of lavenderI explored this with her further.  Like me, she works part-time alongside looking after her children.  When the opportunity for a nap comes along, she suffers the same quandary as I do: to stay at home and sleep for an hour, or fear that she is missing out on quality time with her husband and children?

If only she could press the pause button – she could suspend time while she got the rest she truly needs, then join in the fun when she is refreshed and more able to enjoy it.

More hours in the day?

It’s not quite the same as having more hours in the day.  That would be like having extra time to do what you needed to while family life carried on without you.  You would still miss out on something.  I’ve blogged about Fear of Missing Out before, and this does not seem to fall quite in that category.

I experienced a surprising element to the Easter holidays this year.  I’ve mentioned in the past about When would you press the pause button? Lego people walking up a streethow when my children are off school it can be heaven or hell (and more often the latter), but I was amazed by how much they seem to have grown up.  Once we turned the screens off for the day, they played together beautifully.  Gone was the arguing about who could decide which activity was next, and their fantasy worlds were endless.

My elderly uncle came to stay with us for a few days, and we discussed how we would need to accommodate the needs of someone else.  We would go out, yes, but the trips might not be of the same variety as usual.  The weather was so foul most of the time that we spent hours playing board games.  I think that, on this occasion, we only had tears on one day…

I’m not ready for change

A different way in which I would like to press the pause button is to capture my children the way they When would you press the pause button? Family walking through a golden cornfieldare now.  I’m not ready for my daughter to go to secondary school.  I’m not ready for them to have such different interests that they don’t choose to spend time together.  My health is so much better than it was this time last year.  I wish we could pause our lives now and live as we currently are for longer, before there are more changes.

As I don’t think science has moved this far at present, I will have to be content with enjoying this time while we have it.  But if you know different, please tell me!

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  1. I could do with a pause button to sleep. Then that way I could catch up on sleep work full night shifts and not worry about missing time with the kids. Could you imagine if we all lived like that Adam Sandler movie where he has the remote control.

    1. Me time! That’s such an important one that most of us neglect. I wonder if there’s a way you could plan a little more in, even without having a pause button?

  2. Really interesting to see the idea developed beyond our two minute chat. I think my more desperate version of the pause button is ‘stop the world please, I want to get off!’

  3. I am facing the same issues, I wish I have more time and sometimes pause time even for a couple of hours so I can spend more time with the kids and have a little bit more sleep. I wish we had that ‘pause button’ technology, I am sure we all could do with it.

  4. I think we all wish there were a pause button on life. The kids grow up so quickly and although the days can seem quite long, the years pass by too fast

    1. I can’t believe mio children are 7 and 9! Those baby years seemed to go on forever and now the time just rushes past.

  5. I could definitely do with more hours in the day. There is so much pressure to live a full life and fit everything in.

    1. I don’t know how we manage to fit in all we do! It feels like a constant battle to me.

  6. I think we all need more hours in the day, there never seems to be enough. Even though I’m not a mother I know what you mean, I’d love to sleep more, but would I miss quality time with my family ..?

    1. Sleep seems to be something we are all lacking, whatever our personal situation. I wonder if it is to do with the pace of life in our world?

    1. Sleep! I could definitely use some more of that. And slowing time as our children grow would be wonderful.

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