Is there something in your life that you wish you had done differently?  If you could go back in time, what would you change?

We all have moments in our lives that seem pivotal when we look back at them.  We don’t often realise Time travel: what would YOU change?what is going on at the time, but we can often pinpoint the moment when we think back.

Three years ago, a lady in her eighties was knocked over by a cyclist as she waited for a friend in the dark outside her house.  She was standing on the pavement.  She fractured her hip and had to have a metal plate put in her leg.  Some might say she has never been the same since.  She has had lots of physical problems since this accident, and now finds it difficult to leave the house.

Does he realise?

Her friend made a comment: “I wonder if that boy realises what he’s done?”  I’d be surprised if he did.  I am sure he felt remorse at the time – who wouldn’t, if they knocked an elderly lady over because they were cycling illegally on the pavement without lights?  However, he does not know the full Time travel: what would YOU change?consequences of his actions.  They are not in touch – he is not to know the long lasting effects of his lack of consideration and judgement.

I asked my book group to read “Time and Time Again” by Ben Elton.  (“Not another time travel book, Becky…”)  I don’t want to spoil the book for you, but if you are interested in thinking how life might be different if we changed an event from the past, I recommend you have a read.

We would not be the people we are today if we hadn’t made mistakes in our lives.  Sometimes we regret things we have done; at others, we regret not having had the courage to step out of our comfort zone.  There are things in my life I wish I could forget, things I am not proud of.  I think it must be impossible to get through life without having hurt some people, or having made unwise decisions.  I’d love not to remember some of mine.

Forgetting our regrets

But if I was able to forget, wouldn’t I go on making those same mistakes time after time?  If I couldn’t remember the disgust I felt with myself, or the longing for a different end-result, I would most likely walk along the same path again.  My mistakes, and the memories of them, are what help me in my personal progress.  Some might say they teach me on my spiritual journey.

If I were able to erase particular incidents in my past, where would I be today?  Would I have my wonderful husband and two children?  Would I be living in this city?  My path might have been completely different.  Would I be as happy as I am now?

Looking back

I could be wrong about that young cyclist – he may have given up biking altogether because of the Time travel: what would YOU change?shock, or he may now never cycle on the pavement and use lights when it is dark.  He may struggle to get to sleep at night – her crumpled body might flash in front of him every evening.  We don’t know.  We can never know.

All we can do is look back on our mistakes, and use them to help us move forward.  We needn’t be proud of them, nor need we torture ourselves with what might have been.  We can accept who we are now, and value the person we have become.

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  1. Personally I have always thought I wanted to change a lot of things in the past. But when comes to it really happening, I am not sure what I would. Probably not marry my ex hubs LOL.

  2. I don’t think I’d want to change anything as I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and I am really happy with my life now and I wouldn’t want to make one change which could affect that x

  3. Totally agree that we would not be the people we are today if we hadn’t made mistakes in our lives. My folks set up a failed business but as a result has made them more frugal with their money (that’s not a bad thing).

  4. I’ve always said that I wouldn’t want to change anything in my life because it might have a butterfly effect. But there are things I regret or I wish I could have said or done. I guess that’s part of life though.

    1. Did you see the film Sliding Doors? (I’m showing my age!) It makes me think that things will turn out the same eventually, even if the path we take to get there follows a different route.

  5. We all make mistakes during our lives, we are human after all, but its what we learn from them that shapes us

  6. Wise words! We don’t always make good decisions and choices in life but rather than wish we could travel back in time we can admit them to ourselves and then hopefully be able to learn from them!

  7. Hmmm this is always a tough one for me as I have had some pretty crap things happen, but everything has led me to where I am now, with my amazing kid, so I wouldn’t change anything.

  8. I think quite a few people don’t consider the consequences of their actions which is a shame. I do have some regrets as I am sure many would at my age although no big ones thankfully.

    1. It’s good that you don’t have any big regrets. I think everyone has small ones, and that helps to shape our personalities.

  9. I could change so much that it’s scary, but then changing that wouldn’t make me who I am today – I think all the past has shaped me into me. So I don’t think I’d change a hint.

    1. Great to hear! We can regret things all we like, but as we can’t change them, why keep going over them?

  10. This is such a deep post that has made me stop to think for a moment. If I could have magic powers I would ask for the ability to time travel as sometimes I feel I want to head back in time to change an action that has happened. But like you say, all we can do is use our experiences and make the future better for us.

    1. There’s a couple of things in my life that I ponder over, many years on. I’m sure if I’d done things differently at the time, I wouldn’t still be thinking about them now. But perhaps it all worked out for the best in the end.

    1. Thank you. It’s hard to live life without regrets, but I guess we have to appreciate that our past has made us into who we are today.

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