Have you ever found your way totally blocked? Does it ever feel like you are banging your head on a brick wall?
A number of trees in the woods next door to our house came down in the recent winds. I am grateful that none of them landed on our house or in our garden. The main path from our road was, however, completely blocked.
This reminded me of a journey I made a few years ago. I was making my way to a few days of meetings with some of my colleagues. I make the same journey a number of times a year, but this time I was driving late at night. There had been very high winds when I was on the motorway. At times I was nervous of lorries that could blow over next to me.
I was glad when I got off the main road. I like driving down country lanes when I can. I’m now pretty familiar with this route, and was surprised to find myself at the end of a cul de sac. I couldn’t understand where I had gone wrong. After retracing my steps, I tried again, and came to the same barrier. This time I turned the SatNav on, and it still told me to go straight ahead.
It took three attempts for me to realise that a large tree had fallen across the road. Once I became aware of this, it was obvious. Yes, it was the road I was used to travelling. No, I hadn’t taken a wrong turn. My brain simply couldn’t compute that something was blocking my way.
This happens to me in various areas of my life. I may be struggling with a piece of work, or with getting something done. (Tidying my desk is one of those things…) I will work and work at it until I realise that if take a different angle, things will turn out much better.
Changing my route
In the past I’ve been told I am politically naive. Well, I would rather be this way than cheating my way through situations, but that’s another story! It does make sense to think about the best way to approach particular people, rather than using the same words to all. Some people need their egos to be massaged before they will agree to anything. Others need to believe that it was their idea in the first place. I have worked out that if I present a huge idea to my husband and later on come up with a much more moderate suggestion, the second one usually gets through. I hope he isn’t reading this…
So, when we are blocked, perhaps we need to step back and take a look at the view. What is it that is stopping us? If we take a different approach, will we get through? A wise colleague of mine talks about rowing against the tide. We can keep struggling, or we can see where the current takes us, and work from there.
What approach do you like to take?
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