Have you ever wondered if things could have been different in your life?  Do you look around you and wonder what your parallel universe might look like?

Most people who are my age will remember the TV programme Red Dwarf.  I was so excited to discover they Long corridor in a space ship. What would your parallel universe look like?had made another series, and watched every episode.  It is a comedy about four characters that are hopelessly lost in space.  There was a massive radiation leak on their mining ship, which killed everyone on board.  Lister was in stasis at the time, and the ship’s computer wakes him when radiation levels have returned to normal – 3 million years later.

His old bunkmate, Rimmer, is a hologram.   Rimmer is dreadfully unsatisfied with his life.  He is plagued by the chances he missed.  In the final episode of the 2017 series, Rimmer is given the chance to live in an infinite number of different parallel universes.  He has made different choices in each universe, and he goes off to live in one that is better than his current reality.

You might be able to guess what happened.  He ventured into various different situations.  Rather than being a lowly crew member, he had high status in some dimensions.  He was liked by crew members in another.  He was even married with children at one point.

But it all came down to the same thing.  He was no happier in any of the dimensions he visited.  Simply View of half of the moon. What would your parallel universe look like?by having a better job, or more respect from others, didn’t make him happy.  He was so chewed up inside that he couldn’t find happiness anywhere.

This got me thinking.  I am sure we have all had situations in our lives where we wished we had done things differently.  There are a couple in my working life that come back to me regularly.  If I had done this, everything would have been different.  It was at this point that I lost control.  Had I made this decision, I could still have been working there.

A friend was talking to me about her new job.  It was a “dream job”, but hasn’t turned out quite as well as she expected.  She is facing more challenges than she thought she would.  I asked if it was better Woman at a meal table looking dissatisfied. What would your parallel universe look like?than the previous one, even with its shortcomings, and she was quite definite.  Her working situation may not be perfect, but it is better than it was before.

I think that counting our blessings is important.  We may look at others around us and think they have it all, but it is rarely true.  What we see is often a mask.  Everyone has something in their life that they wish they could change.

So, take stock, look at your life and see what you can be thankful for.  It may be a loving family; it may be a pet.  It may be that even though you work long hours, your children have great childcare.  Your house might not be ideal, but it is a roof over your head.

Changing our mindsets over such things can make a big difference to our overall levels of happiness.  Perhaps at the end of the day, before going to sleep, we can think about one thing good that has happened that day.  It may help to bring us more happiness tomorrow.

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  1. You’re right that what you can see can be a mask and it’s important to look beyond that. It’s a shame your friends ‘dream job’ didn’t turn out quite like that x

    1. I think she is coming to terms with the limitations of it now. She still thinks it is better than the old one.

  2. Things often seem like the “grass is greener on the other side” but I think it’s rarely actually true. So often we see what we think is better but when we try it.. It’s just the same, but with a slightly different package.

    1. Yes, indeed! It’s hard to know which way to jump sometimes as we might not like what we know, but ay least we know it.

  3. It is part of life living with decisions and seeing that the grass isn’t necessarily greener on the other side, but it is how we learn

  4. I agree with a previous posted where she said it seems like the grass is greener on the other side, but in reality its green where you water it and care for it.

  5. My life’s definitely not turned out anything like I expected. But I’m glad as I’m mostly really happy with things how they are.

    Louise x

  6. It’s quite easy to get hung up on the what ifs and if onlys, especially regarding major life decisions. I don’t think its too healthy to dwell too much on them though, the grass often isn’t greener there. I agree that its best to change your mindset and know what you have and be grateful for those things.

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